I’ve been binge-watching Derrick Jaxn’s channel on YouTube. He’s imperfect and I don’t agree with everything he says, but he is a good speaker and he uses a lot of common sense that cuts through bullshit. Particularly male bullshit, and even more specifically the bullshit of male cheaters.
His main messages are to have standards for how you let people treat you, to be alone rather than settle for someone who demeans/disrespects you, and to pay attention to a person’s consistent patterns rather than words or superficial actions.
Here’s a sample of his wisdom:
“It’s time that a lot of y’all start looking past a man’s personality, and look dead at his character. Because that’s what’s either going to break or save and protect your heart at the end of the day.”
Well, THAT one rang in my head like a gong. Because, while I love so much about my husband’s personality, there are so many weak and rotten areas in his character.