Know what triggers are? They are things that remind you of something traumatic in your past, bringing up those same feelings of pain, horror and/or anger. I think I actually have more triggers than this related to my husband’s affair. These are the ones I thought of today.
- Museums (she works at one)
- Sexting (they did a lot of that)
- Any mention of the books or movies for “50 Shades of Gray” (she recommended the book to him)
- Dismissiveness (he spoke dismissively of me to her)
- Any mention of my atheism (that’s what he was speaking dismissively about)
- All the billions of references to infidelity in songs, movies, books and online. It’s everywhere.