Just a little update on the non-event of my sex life. Finally bought a new vibrator to replace the one that died when its old batteries rusted in place. (Oh, the metaphor there.) My old one was a boring beige — long and slender with an egg-shaped blob at the business end. I used to call it ET’s Finger, and it… Read more →
Category: Sex
Retiring, horny & unhappy
My husband happily talks about my possible retirement next year if he gets a job promotion he’s been chasing unsuccessfully for years now. That job is one he could do from anywhere in the world. He sees a long list of options for us as a couple who will travel the world, returning periodically to a small home full of… Read more →
The time of almost-sex, hate mail, and betrayal
I got my first hate mail from an adult when I was 14, and it relates to some almost-sex I had. I was dating a much older guy (my mother was sometimes an idiot to permit things like that), and he was far more ready for sex than I was. We did some petting, and that’s as far as it… Read more →
I feel helpless about his impotence.
I don’t know what happened first — my husband’s erectile dysfunction or the serious problems in our relationship. He has always put pressure on himself to “perform” (a verb I detest when applied to sex). I enjoy being in bed with the man; there is no need to try so much. (I say “much” because I’m really trying to avoid… Read more →
Am I doomed to not having sex?
At *least* since early July (and probably for a month or so earlier), I’ve been telling my husband that I’m in a better place emotionally and physically, and I would love for us to start sleeping together again. It used to be that he was like a hungry dog on a chain, always straining toward me. But these days? Not… Read more →
Something has to give. We can’t live like this.
My husband is so nice to me in mundane ways these days. He is trying TOO hard. I think he knows that I’m still ambivalent about our marriage, even three years since his affair. He makes breakfast, goes to the grocery store, and runs laundry. When he washes towels, he lays two clean ones on the side of the tub… Read more →