One of the oldest arguments that my husband and I have had many times over the years recently bubbled up to the surface like marsh gas in a swamp. I said “Yes” to something my daughter needed, which meant I effectively said “No” to something my husband wanted and demanded. Some decisions don’t HAVE middle grounds. He was LIVID. My… Read more →
Category: Control Issues
I’m sorry — here’s a lamp.
You’ll get the headline for this post if you listed to the video below. It’s absolutely spot-on perfect. The video is by Jaime Primak Sullivan — a publicist, producer, writer, mom and wife who hosts the popular Cawfeetawk vlog and a very sassy Instagram account. Here she’s talking about something her husband keeps failing to do, even though he knows it’s a… Read more →
Retiring, horny & unhappy
My husband happily talks about my possible retirement next year if he gets a job promotion he’s been chasing unsuccessfully for years now. That job is one he could do from anywhere in the world. He sees a long list of options for us as a couple who will travel the world, returning periodically to a small home full of… Read more →
So he didn’t love her
I never talked on the phone with the other woman, but we did exchange some blistering texts. One of the things she said after their so-called emotional affair was, “Effie, he never told me he loved me.” I have such mixed feelings about that. Thoughts that I left unvoiced to her included: Sarcasm: “Well, I guess dick pics just had… Read more →
Relying on an unreliable man
Procrastination is disrespect — both for yourself and for whoever depends on you. (I’m both an offender and a victim, but I’m talking as the victim today.) One of the recurring issues I’ve had with my husband is asking him to do something, hearing him agree to do it (usually within a specified time), and then watching him not do… Read more →